Some Advice to New Mothers

Friday, September 19, 2008

Posted by zchelle

When a new mother give birth to her baby, she must expect that their will be change in her life. Not only to her, but also to her husband. If the father and mother is not prepared to meet the change in their lives, both can be in for a very difficult time. The father may feel that he's now in the second place in her attention and affection. The mother is tired mentally and physically or relatives may interfere couple's privacy. To minimize the problems, a mother should follow a few guidelines: Here are the guidelines the Family Health Encyclopedia specified:

> The new baby is a shared responsibility. Do not shut your husband out of the experience of parenthood. Let him learn to feed the baby, diaper her, hold her, get acquanted with her. Make your husband feel just as important to the baby as you are, and just as important to you as he was before the baby was born

> Arrange for some kind of assistence in your home, and don't wait until the day you bring the baby home to do it. Plan ahead. You will be physically and emotionally tired after childbirth, no matter how marvelou you may feel when you leave the hospital. During the hospital stay the baby was cared for a trained staff. At home the burden will fall mainly on you, unles you take steps to get help. If you cannot get your mother or another relative to stay with you, engage a housekeeper or some other trained peron.

> If it is all possible, arrange to have a separate area for the baby. It is best for a baby not to be kept in the parent's room. Parent must have privacy. If you do not have a bedroom for the baby, section off some spot where you can put a crib and a dressing table to hold the upplies you will need when you feed, change, bathe, and dress her.

> Don't make the baby the focus of attention 24 hour a day. If she fidgets and fusses at times, try not to get nervous. Don't run to her at every whimper so long as you know she has been fed, is dry, and nothing is really wrong. Relax. The baby will be very sensitive to your emotional responses, particularly when you hold her. Through your physical contact you will develop a kind of communication with your baby which she will sense when you pick her up or feed her.

> As important as it is for you and your husband to avoid overhandling the baby, it is more important that family and friends be made to follow a "hands off" policy except at your discretion. A new baby should not be subjected to excessive stimulation. A baby needs a quiet, organized home, free from the kind of upsetting distraction that comes from being surrounded and fussed over by too many people. You and your husband must decide when you want the baby to have visitors and how those visitors are to behave. You must do this even if it causes hurt feelings among your friends and relatives. When the baby is a little older there will be time enough for friends and relatives to admire and play with her.